What to do: In this case, it is totally acceptable to put either guest first. You can list the person you are closest to first, or simply address them in alphabetical order.
Inner Envelope: Alan, Emily, Roger, Chance, Miss Jennifer, and Miss Lily
What to do: Use “Mr.” if he is over 18. Otherwise, no title is necessary.
Inner envelope: “Ms. Stevens and Ms. Thompson” or “Lucy and Stacey”
What to do: In the case of married doctors and the wife has taken her husband’s last name, it is proper to use: “The Doctors.”
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Use “Mr.” and “Mrs.” and spell out the husband’s first and last name. If you decide to include the husband’s middle name, it should be spelled out, not abbreviated as an initial.
Inner envelope: “Mrs. Sherrow” or “Ms. Sherrow” or “Mrs. Chabert” or “Ms. Chabert” or “Amanda”
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Outer envelope: “Mr. Thomas Warren and Mrs. Michelle Warren”
As with a married couple, both names should be included on the envelopes, but in this case, each name gets its own line.
Note: If you don’t include each child’s name, you’re implying that children are not invited. That said, don’t be surprised if some guests still mistakenly assume their children are welcome. If you’re concerned this will happen with your guests, ask your immediate family and bridal party to help spread the word that the wedding will be adults only and add the message to your wedding website. In the end, you may have to follow up with guests who don’t get the message via phone to gently explain the situation.
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List the person you’re closest with first on the outer and inner envelopes. If you’re similarly acquainted with both, list them in alphabetical order.
Use the same rules you would for any other unmarried or married couple. If the couple is married, list the names on the same line.
Inner envelope: “Dr. Takata and Mr. Smith or “Tami and Christopher”
Outer envelope: “The Honorable Josephine Wood and Mr. Jonathan Wood” or “Captains Josephine and Jonathan Wood, US Navy”
Inner envelope: “Mr. Craft and Ms. Crosby-Craft” or “Marcus and Amanda”
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Inner envelope: “Mr. Kim and Ms. Rhee” or “Stanley and Amanda”
Inner envelope: “Mr. and Mrs. Warren or “Thomas and Michelle”
What to do: Apply the same rules for military personnel, judges, reverends, etc., that you use for doctors. If both titles don’t fit on one line, indent the second line. And remember that whichever half of the couple “outranks” the other (say, a doctor, member of the military, or some other profession that includes a title) goes first, regardless of gender.
How to Address Wedding Invitations1. To a Married Couple with the Same Last Name
Determining the appropriate way to address your wedding invitation envelopes can be a tricky process. As a rule of thumb, the outer envelope of your wedding invitation should be more formal, with titles and full names, while the inner envelope is more informal, leaving out first names or titles and last names (if you’re very close to the guest). Find even more ways to address your wedding invitation envelopes below.
What to do: Ask a family member who is closest to her whether she would prefer to be addressed by her married name (Mrs. Susan Brown) or by her husband’s name (Mrs. John Brown).
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Outer envelope: “Mr. Marcus Craft and Ms. Amanda Crosby-Craft”
Outer envelope: “Ms. Stephanie Chen” or “Miss Stephanie Chen” (if she is younger than 18)
Inner envelope: “Mr. Warren and Mrs. Warren or “Thomas and Michelle”
You might be wondering, “What if my wedding isn’t going to be that formal? Do I still have to make the wedding invitations formal?” Well, when it comes to addressing wedding invitations for a more casual event, we understand the temptation to just use first names, or first and last names without titles. While this isn’t traditional, if the vibe is really backyard barbecue or a picnic in the park, you may be able to get away with it. But this is definitely the right time to use more formal wording for older or more conservative guests—they may not notice that you were being particularly respectful, but they definitely will if they feel that you were too informal!
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10. To a Couple with Distinguished Titles Other than Doctors
Outer envelope: “Doctor Matthew Smith and Doctor Angela Griggs-Smith”
Apply the same rules you use for doctors for military personnel, judges, reverends and so on. If both titles don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.
Younger guests can be included on the inner envelope of their parents’ invitation by their name(s)—they should not be addressed on the outer envelope. For girls under 18, use “Miss.” Boys don’t need a title until they’re 18—then they’re addressed as “Mr.”
Outer envelope: “Doctor Tami Takata and Mr. Christopher Smith”
Many modern women may have a strong aversion to having their name left out and lumped in with their husband. If you are a couple that is sensitive to this:
Outer envelope: “The Doctors Smith” or “Drs. Matthew and Angela Smith”
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What to do: Invitations to a couple who are unmarried but live at the same address are addressed to both people on one line. List the person whom you are closest to first.
Eight weeks before your wedding comes the big day when you send out invitations (talk about making it feel real!). You’ve tackled the wedding invitation wording on the card, and now it’s time to figure out how to address wedding invitations on the outside. That’s right—there’s even etiquette for how to address an envelope.
Before you head to the post office, you’ll want to be sure to properly address the inner envelopes and outer envelopes. As a general rule, the outer envelope should be more formal, while the inner envelope is slightly less formal (the outer envelope, for example, might have a full name with title, and an inner envelope can have just a first name or initials). When you start addressing wedding invitations, you might start wondering which person should be listed first on the invitation? What if the invitation is to a whole family, including children? To help, we’ve put together an easy wedding envelope-addressing guide, complete with what to write in 13 unique situations.
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Inner envelope: “Judge Wood and Mr. Wood” or “The Captains Wood”
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What to do: When inviting an entire family, the family name or the parents’ names should be listed alone, and everyone can be included on the inside. When including female children under the age of 18, address them with a Miss.
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Outer envelope: “The Thompson Family” or “Mr. and Mrs. Alan Thompson” or “Mr. Alan Thompson and Mrs. Emily Thompson”
Outer envelope: “Mrs. Susan Brown” or “Mrs. John Brown” depending upon her preference.
If both parties are doctors, you can address the outer envelope:
Inner envelope: “Ms. Stevens and Mr. Estevez” or “Maria and David”
They should receive their own invitations (unless they’re living at home with their parents).
What to do: In the case of married doctors and one has chosen to hyphenate. If both titles don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.
What to do: List her first with her title; if the combined names are too long to fit on one line, list them separately. Spell out “doctor” on the outer envelope, and abbreviate on the inner.
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What to do: In the case of a spouse who has chosen to hyphenate their last name, then they should be addressed using Ms. (Mrs. is also acceptable) + her first name + maiden name + married name. (Same goes if a man has decided to hyphenate—substitute Mr.)
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Inner envelope: “Dr. Smith and Dr. Griggs-Smith” or “Matthew and Angela”
What to do: In this case, you can use Mrs. or Ms. coupled with ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name.
Mr. and Mrs. Michael AbrahamDaniel, Jeffrey, Miss Brittany and Miss Kelly
What to do: Use “Ms.” if she is over age 18. If she is younger, than “Miss” is the acceptable choice; it should be spelled out, not abbreviated as an initial.
If a woman uses her maiden name professionally and socially, the envelopes should read:
What to do: Write their names on the same line with the woman’s name first; if the combined names are too long to fit on one line, list them separately.